I told her that she could get into her car seat by herself and that she could also do anything she put her mind to.
When I was doing P90X a few years ago, I remember Tony Horton (the trainer) saying that instead of saying "I can't" we should say something like "I am currently unable." I would add to that, "But I am working on it."
That is all we can do is work to better ourselves, to be able to do something today or tomorrow that we couldn't do yesterday. Yesterday I was currently unable to do more than a half-hearted crunch. Today, I was able to pull myself up from being flat on my back on the floor. I can't (I honestly cannot do it!) tell you the last time I was able to pull myself up into a sitting position while on the floor. Now I can. I can also do some pretty decent crunches (even though I hate them)!
Although medically, we may have some things that we honestly cannot do, if we are merely saying we can't do something because we think it is too hard or we are lazy or whatever the reason we say "I can't" for, we need to change our thinking.
I think the biggest part of "I can't" comes from faulty thinking. We are what we think, so if we think we "can't" do something, then we are right: "we can't." However, if we think we can and we work on it, eventually, I believe we can.
One thing that I know is absolutely true is that no one ever did anything who said, "I can't." Example, when I said "I can't" to being able to bend over backwards and grab my own feet in kind of a curved "c" shape, I was right. I couldn't. But as I began to realize that the more I worked on it, the more and more closer I got to doing it until one day I grabbed my own feet and was able to do this very difficult move! Had I continued on with the thought that "I can't" I never could have.
The next time you are faced with an "I can't" situation, just remember that more than likely, "you can," you are just currently unable to...
Until next time, be good to yourself and others!