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A Matter of Perspective

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. ~Maya Angelou

Things change—life changes—we change. If you had asked me where I thought I would be today compared to a little over a year ago, I would have told you that things in my life would have been relatively the same. I didn’t foresee any BIG changes coming my way.

Wow! Was I ever wrong.

I lost my mom in that time and have had some spiritual breakthroughs as well.

The other day I was missing my mom and I told God that I missed her.

Then I thought about the way she had died—with my sister on one side of her and me on the other, playing her favorite singer Alan Jackson singing her favorite song, “Amazing Grace.”

I thought about how labored her breathing had been. I thought about how her breathing settled down during the song. I thought about the bracelet that I wear that says, “Be still and know.”

As I thought about all these things, I began to see how beautiful her passing from this world into the next had been. I didn’t see it a little over a year ago. I was hurting and missing her too much.

I still miss her so much. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about her or want to give her a call to tell her something or ask her a question.

It is never easy to lose a parent—no matter how old you are.

It is one of those changes that I was referring to. I had to change my attitude—my heart—about the loss of my mom in order for me to feel better about the loss.

Changes are often uneasy. They make us feel funny. They require us to think differently.

Change can be easier for us if we look at change as something that will make us better—we will either learn a lesson or we will learn something new.

Change is necessary for growth.

Sometimes, I just wish change wasn’t so hard.


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