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A Matter of Perspective

Sometimes things in life don’t seem to make much sense. Like all these murders going on.

One thing I learned is that hurt people will hurt people. There are a lot of hurting people out there in the world—in our own towns and neighborhoods. Even in our own households.

Maybe you are hurting. With the way things are going in the world no one would blame you if you are.

It is what you do with your hurt that makes the difference.

If you are hurting and you take it out on other people or yourself that is not a good thing.

I do that. When I am hurting I yell. I yell a lot. My neighbors can probably attest to this. For that I am sorry.

I guess yelling is probably better than some of the alternatives, but it still isn’t the best choice.

There are better alternatives for me and for others.

One, just get out of the situation. Sometimes that can be very difficult to do, but you need to try.

Here are some things I learned that sometimes work. These are not in any particular order, but I did number them for ease of separating one from another.

1. Get outside. Just being outside can help take the “spark” out of the anger that is threatening to explode.

2. Exercise. A good hard workout can help you feel better about things. You can use the workout to take out the anger that you might be feeling. I’ve heard that punching bags are really good for this! (I don’t know from experience.)

3. Treat yourself. It doesn’t have to be something expensive, just something that you like. Maybe a cup of coffee with a friend. Which leads to the next one. . .

4. Talk with a friend. Sometimes just a good healthy venting with a friend can make all the difference.

5. Listen to music. But I would advise you to make sure it is “uplifting” music. If you listen to something that talks about destroying or killing, you might be adding fuel to your fire.

6. Read a book. Or the Good Book (Bible).

7. Write out your feelings. I know it may seem like a burden, but sometimes writing things down—how you feel, and what you are thinking—can help you evaluate the feelings by seeing them in black and white.

Remember, hurt people, hurt people, but you can break the chain. Talk to someone. There are a lot of people out there who care about you.


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